My fiance and I are getting married next month. Everything is going great, but we’ve had a serious argument about having his grandmother at our wedding.
We’ve agreed not to have kids at our wedding, as we want the reception to be a huge party for our adult friends and family with dancing, loud music, and an open bar. We don’t want anyone to feel as if they have to hold back because kids are around. And the same goes for old people like his grandmother. I don’t want his elderly grandmother at our wedding. I said I could come to the ceremony but not the reception. It will be extremely loud, and I want it to be a party atmosphere, and I will be extremely out of place. She is his last living grandmother. I know that I might not understand his reason for wanting to have his grandmother at the wedding because none of my grandparents are still alive. I should also point out that he is her oldest grandchild, and I probably won’t make it to the next family wedding because of her age.
Now, we are both in a huge fight since he wants to have her there for the entire wedding, and I said I have always dreamed about being at her grandson’s wedding. I told her I was more than welcome to attend the ceremony, but I will just be too out of place at the reception. However, he and I both insist that I would be fine and insisted that I go to the reception party. But I just know it will inevitably lead to us dealing with her and taking care of her, and I just want to get drunk and let loose with my friends.
My fiancé is so angry with me, and now he won’t talk to me. Honestly, I’m the bride, and everyone is supposed to just make me happy. His feelings don’t matter on that day, and we can work it out later after the wedding. I think I am within my rights as the bride to make this request, and I’m not backing down. Am I wrong?