Yes, I allowed my husband to cheat on me 5 times before I finally kicked him out.
I had good reason to do this. I needed him around the house so that my home renovations and my home office could be completed. That was my reasoning.
Once those were completed, I told him I wanted a divorce.
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The woman shared her story on an online where people share personal and intimate stories they do not wish to share with those close to them.
I revealed my husband’s infidelity online to strangers. I shared that my now ex-husband and I were together for 16 years, married for 14, and had an 11-year-old son and a four-year-old daughter.
The first time I caught him cheating, I blamed myself since I was pushing him to get an actual job since he was unemployed at the time. My husband was let go from the job he had during the pandemic, and I became the financial provider and caretaker of the family. I worked from home whenever I could while taking care of kids, chores, and the bills. Everything fell on my shoulders, and he wasn’t even trying to help out.
I realize now that I probably pushed him further and further into someone else’s arms because of my constant nagging. But I couldn’t take it anymore.
My husband was my first love, so I forgave him after he cheated the first time and never mentioned it again. I soon discovered that he was cheating again since he followed a pattern of behavior while he was being unfaithful.
One day I took his phone and found messages with another woman we will call A46.
I chose not to confront her husband this time and put all of her attention on her work and home instead.
“I did nothing, sent the chat to my phone and forgot about it for the moment, then started to invest in my work, and distanced myself from him, which wasn’t so hard, I was working like crazy and caring for the kids while he was always on the phone with the mistress.”
My husband would go on to cheat four more times with this same woman after the initial incident.
The other woman even lent money to him to go to football games and concerts with his friends; she even bought him clothes and shoes. And I know that he wasn’t getting those new things from our bank account.
Then, he had the audacity to complain about my spending, saying that I was buying things I didn’t need and he should be allowed to buy things he wanted like a tattoo.
I told him that he should get a job if he wanted some extra money to spend on a tattoo.
Surprisingly, my husband hatched a plan with his mistress under the pretense that it was a new job he had just gotten. His mistress lives in another state so my husband created a fake “construction job” that was in that state. He would go away for 15 to 20 days saying that it was “construction work he was doing.
By that time, all of my intended work plans were falling into place and I had finally reached a financially comfortable position. I had my offices well installed and stoked; had a good number of clients; and started teaching via online meetings. So, I felt ready to let my husband go.
I prepared a nice romantic meal, sent the kids to grandma, and during dinner I asked him for a divorce. The truth is, I had grown out of love with him years ago, and when I found out he was cheating over and over, it started to not even bother me anymore.
You might be wondering why I waited so long to divorce him and kick him out. Well, he wasn’t a terrible father, and while spending a lot of time on his phone, he also took care of the kids so I could work.
I used him, and I don’t feel an ounce of guilt about it.
She was praised by others for her decision
Strangers online commented by saying, “Oh wow, I’m so proud of you! It takes a special kind of person to keep a cool, calm, and collected persona, while in an emotionally distressing situation. You lined your pieces up perfectly, got the timing right, and executed the plan flawlessly.”
“You’ve inspired me to handle a crisis like this in the future. You did amazing. Congratulations on your freedom!” another user wrote.
“You’re a hero! Let his mistress support him now,” another shared.
It has now been two years since my divorce, and my business is still doing well. And I’ve also been able to complete home renovations, including a new bathroom and a kitchen, buy my kids new clothes and shoes that we weren’t able to afford before.
I’ve been able to pull my small family of 3 out of debt and into a better life. I’m happy for my decision to divorce. Last I heard, he was still unemployed and living with his mistress. I’m sure she won’t want to deal with him for much longer.
